We Are All the Same in the Dark by Julia Heaberlin is a novel I highly recommend and wish I had read earlier. The title summarizes the reality of all humans, that in the dark we are all the same. Disabilities do not define us, just as being a widow does not define who I am. In this twisty psychological thriller, Julia Heaberlin paints two unforgettable portraits of a woman and a girl who redefine perceptions of physical beauty and strength. Her novel has helped me redefine my grief.
Being a Widow Does Not Define Me
Estimated reading time: 1 minute, 12 seconds
One of the ten books I have read this year was We Are All the Same in the Dark by Julia Heaberlin.
The novel is one I highly recommend and wish I had read earlier. The title summarizes the reality of all humans, that in the dark we are all the same.
In this twisty psychological thriller, Julia Heaberlin paints two unforgettable portraits of a woman and a girl who redefine perceptions of physical beauty and strength. Her novel has helped me redefine my grief.
Disabilities do not define us, just as being a widow does not define who I am.
Since Jan died almost two years ago, I still identify as married and not a widow.
Has my life been so drained by Jan’s death that I am now only a checkbox on a form?
No, I am and always will be more than only a widow.
I am a husband, father, grandfather, advocate, good neighbor, friend, and Jew, among many attributes that define me.
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We Are All the Same in the Dark
Six Words
Estimated reading time: 1 minute, 12 secondsThis line from Odette given to Angelica, aka Angel, summarizes the characteristics that each of us should live by.
Tender. Resilient. Strong. Resourceful. Kind. Empathetic.—Six words Marshall Tucker wrote on a piece of paper to describe his daughter, Odette.
As a mensch-in-training, I will strive to live by those six words.
