My Past No Longer Consumes My Life
Relapse: A New Musical Reminds Me to Live in the Present
Estimated reading time: 2 minutes, 4 secondsI lived in the past in the initial months after my wife died. The loss of a loved one is like a mega-earthquake. When I lost my parents, a few books fell on the outer edge of my bookcase. When my wife died, the entire bookcase collapsed. I knew I needed to rebuild the bookcase and pick up the books from the floor, but I was frozen. I wanted my wife back, even though I knew that was impossible. The past consumed my life for endless days and nights and kept me from living. Almost twenty-nine months later, I am facing the unknowable future by living in the present and not letting the past consume my life.
Last night, I watched Relapse: A New Musical with my friend Arnold, and it made me reflect on my past experiences. The musical is about a group of people – Adam, Bryan, Melinda, and Kendra – struggling with mental health issues and guided through their journey by Dr. Carlis and Nurse Margot. The characters face emotional, psychological, and social conflicts while attending group therapy sessions, but they eventually learn to confront their demons and work toward recovery. The show highlights the importance of letting go of the past to move forward and embrace the future. Overall, it’s a powerful and thought-provoking production.
Relapse was a stark reminder of how much power the past once held over my life. However, it also highlighted the sense of liberation I now feel. Even though we may be called towards the future, it can be difficult to envision life after loss. Only when we fully grasp Merrit Malloy’s Epitaph can we break free from the past’s grasp. Love never dies; only people do. I could live in the present moment when I finally let go of my wife’s love. I cannot predict the future, but I am no longer afraid. I will work towards building a fulfilling life, one day at a time.
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Relapse: A New Musical Reminds Me to Live in the Present
Estimated reading time: 2 minutes, 4 secondsEpitaph by Merrit Malloy
Relapse: A New Musical Reminds Me to Live in the Present
Estimated reading time: 2 minutes, 4 secondsWhen I die
Give what’s left of me away
To children
And old men that wait to die.
And if you need to cry,
Cry for your brother
Walking the street beside you.
And when you need me,
Put your arms
Around anyone
And give them
What you need to give to me.
I want to leave you something,
Something better
Than words
Or sounds.
Look for me
In the people I’ve known
Or loved,
And if you cannot give me away,
At least let me live on in your eyes
And not your mind.
You can love me most
By letting
Hands touch hands,
By letting bodies touch bodies,
And by letting go
Of children
That need to be free.
Love doesn’t die,
People do.
So, when all that’s left of me
Is love,
Give me away.