Summer: A Novel by Ali Smith is a fascinating book about the times in which we live. Where does the family begin? And what do people who think they've got nothing in common have in common? Summer.
Stream of Consciousness!
My random thoughts on Jan, love, grief, life, and all things considered.
Commitment Times Three
The problem I face confuses many of us. How do we love someone who is no longer with us? For me, it is easy. Jan and I had a unique love as we shared a portion of the soul of the other. Our love was able to combine our souls and produce an unbreakable bond. Would we have stayed together for almost 48 years without that?
From day one, she had three opportunities to choose a different life. Each time she decided to stay with me, it was a clear sign of her love and commitment.
Welcoming Mike!
Today our youngest son turned 36! The night before he was born, Jan and I monitored the contractions. As they intensified, I suggested we call the midwife, and Jan kept saying no, “Not yet, we have time!”
I finally insisted. When we arrived at Methodist Hospital, the staff moved Jan to the birthing room, and Mike arrived within twenty minutes.
They handed him to me, and I kissed his forehead and then reached over and kissed Jan as I transferred our son into her arms. That morning’s love that filled the birthing room was enough to light up all of Brooklyn!
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Time Plays a Game With Me
Why is time confusing me? Jan and I had 2,477 weeks and one day together. All of that has now been crunched and digitized into 0’s and 1’s.
All of our memories now fit on a thumb drive smaller than my pinkie fingernail.
At times it seems as if our last kiss was five nanoseconds ago. More often, each day feels like a year since she graced my life with happiness.
How can all my memories shrink compared to the last 22 weeks? Oh, how I wish I could relive each moment of our life together.
The Book of V
Anna Solomon's kaleidoscopic novel intertwines the lives of three women shows how women's roles have and have not changed over thousands of years.
Activities of Daily Living Alone
After five months, it seems safe to say that I have mastered the Activities of Daily Living Alone (ADLA). I can clean the house, do laundry, shop, cook, shower, etc. I have checked all of the boxes.
I can live alone. But is this living?
There is a difference between managing the ADLA and living. Without Jan, the daily tasks are merely checklists. With her, our love and support provided us the foundation upon which we lived lives worth living. If I were to live as old as Methuselah, I would always miss the life I shared with Jan.
Jan Lilien Made History
Five months ago today, the love of my life died.
She was and always will be the light of my life!
This video speaks to her dedication, passion, and commitment! She was a true Humanitarian!
The best decision I ever made was to marry Jan.
Being her husband has always been the highest honor of my life.
I love her more than ever and miss her so very much. Love never dies! It grows stronger every day!