I began reading Stephanie Bishop's novel, The Anniversary, today. The Anniversary is a brilliantly written novel with a gripping and fast-paced storyline. It poses some interesting questions: how blurred is the boundary between reality and fiction in a writer's thoughts? How can we reject those we yearn for? And what are the consequences for ourselves, others, and our creativity if we don't?
Life is Too Short!
Living Alone and Dreaming of More!
As I walked through the memorial garden, a cocker spaniel jumped over the plants and rubbed its wet fur onto my sweatpants. My neighbor Chris attempted to calm his dog down, but I reassured him it was no problem. We quickly caught up, as we hadn’t seen each other on our morning walks for weeks. As Chris departed, he asked if I still walked every day. I replied that I did, as life is too short to miss even one-morning walk.
As I completed my short lap around Hanson Park, I pondered how brief life is for all of us, particularly for me in my mid-seventies. Although I have lived alone since my wife’s passing two years ago, I cherish life and the people who make it enjoyable. Am I happy? Yes, I am. Do I smile enough? I believe I do.
I follow the fundamental principles we should have learned in kindergarten.
- Before you speak, listen.
- Before you write, think.
- Before you spend, earn.
- Before you pray, forgive.
- Before you hate, love.
- Before you quit, try.
- Before you die, live.
Is it sufficient? No, I sometimes yearn for more from life than I have, but I also acknowledge that I have more than others. During my last conversation with my wife, she said she did not want me to be alone. “You are a good man and an excellent husband,” she said. You will be happier with someone than alone.” Although I resisted, she was persistent. Now that I am alone, will I be content if I never find someone to love? Yes, but I know that Jan was right, and while I can live alone, I will always be less than entirely happy.
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