The Candy House: A Novel by Jennifer Egan focuses on a new technology that allows you access to every memory you've ever had and to share your memories in exchange for access to the memories of others—it has seduced multitudes. According to the NYTimes, "this is minimalist maximalism. As a widow, I live in a world of memories, but I would not want them shared as they are in The Candy House. "It's as if Egan compressed a big 19th-century novel onto a flash drive."
Grief in the Rear View Mirror
I miss Jan every moment of the day.
However, I am no longer in grief.
I have wanted to shout that from the mountain or rooftop, but I have no access to either option.
Jan’s diagnosis of Lymphoma to her death was twenty months.
I have traveled almost as long since she died as I did being her caregiver.
The grief journey was long and arduous. I arrived at the end of that journey and found multiple exit ramps.
When we remember those we have lost, one of our readings at Temple Sha’arey Shalom summarizes my chosen pathway.
We do our best homage to our dead when we live our lives more fully, even in the shadow of our loss.
I will be grateful to Jan for her love and support as long as I live.
Grief may be behind me, but I will shed enough tears for the rest of my life to fill the Great Lakes.
I also know she will be with me during my next life phase.
Our love will never die!
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