The Hero of This Book: A Novel by Elizabeth McCracken is a searing examination of grief and renewal, and of a deeply felt relationship between a child and her parents. It is not a memoir but it is a rememberance of those we have lost. Ten months after her mother's death, the narrator of The Hero of This Book takes a trip to London. The city was a favorite of her mother's, and as the narrator wanders the streets, she reflects on her mother's life and their relationship.
Stream of Consciousness!
My random thoughts on Jan, love, grief, life, and all things considered.
Jan’s Love is All I Need!
As children of the sixties, Jan and I listened to The Beatles and learned the axiom; all you need is love!
Love’s meaning has been diminished by overuse.
We love our morning coffee, clothes, dinner, TV shows, and many items that are not true love.
The truth is that love, as Viktor Frankl wrote,
For the first time in my life I saw the truth as it is set into song by so many poets, proclaimed as the final wisdom by so many thinkers. The truth – that love is the ultimate and highest goal to which man can aspire. Then I grasped the meaning of the greatest secret that human poetry and human thought and belief have to impart: The salvation of man is through love and in love.
Until I met Jan, I honestly never understood love. She transformed my life, and my love for her will never die.
Approaching the second winter without Jan, I know that I still love her and that as long as I share her love, our love will never die!
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Sharing Jan’s Love November Issue
The November issue includes articles on:
- Jan’s Memorial Garden – Working with the Hanson Park Conservancy, we have taken significant steps in building Jan’s Memorial Triangle Garden at Hanson Park, including a video of the installation of the Wind Sculpture, and
- The Promised Land – “What is my sweetheart thinking about,” I asked as I kissed Jan’s cheek. “I am happy to be with my husband in the promised land.”
Both are stories about our love, faith, and the family’s journey.
Short stream posts on:
- Forty-nine Years of Loving Jan!,
- One Hundred Forty-Four Minutes,
- The Wind Sculpture – A Poem,
- Smiling Wes Wind My Heart,
- Happiness Starts With Me,
- Forever Grateful for Jan’s Love,
- And more.
I have reviewed recent books:
- The Rabbit Hutch by Tess Gunty
- The Outrun: A Memoir by Amy Liptrot
- The Book of Goose by Yiyun Li
- The Furrows by Namwali Serpell.
Please consider making a Donation to The Jan Lilien Education Fund! Donations made this month; I will match dollar-for-dollar.
The Jan Lilien Education Fund sponsors ongoing sustainability and environmental awareness programs. Gifts made this month; I will match dollar-for-dollar. All donations are tax-deductible.
I receive a commission when you buy a book or product using a link on this page. Thank you for supporting Sharing Jan’s Love blog.
Upside Down Days
Days can become weeks, and our lives may change only incrementally.
We may not notice that we have grown or our lives are not what we once dreamed they would be.
But then we have days when everything changes in the blink of an eye.
I am not sure what happened last night, but I woke up in the wee hours of the night, and my leg was like molten rubber.
My legs swayed like I was on the Titanic after the iceberg.
Either I was dreaming, or I had a Dickensian visitor predicting my future.
Part of me believes I slept on the bathroom floor while, in my mind’s eye, I was in bed.
Whichever occurred, it was a night of little sleep, and the morning was off kelter.
I need to renew my vows to love Jan forever and let her spirit lead me forward one step at a time.
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Investing Jan’s Love in My Future
As much as I miss Jan, continuing to live is the only choice I have ever had.
Like George Burns, I could not cry forever.
One day at a time, I stepped into an unknown future with Jan’s love and spirit next to me.
Within days of burying the love of my life, I tied my walking shoes and embarked on a journey to define the boundaries of my new life.
I have read sixty-four books this year, eaten better despite fast eating, and written daily about my love for Jan.
The Jan Lilien Memorial Triangle Garden and Wind Sculpture at Hanson Park and the Jan Lilien Education Fund will keep Jan’s name and memory alive.
Investing in our future and working on the memorial has helped me grow around my grief.
As the axiom says,
Invest in yourself. Eat healthy food. Meditate. Read. Drink water. Move your body. Spend time in nature. Rest up. You are worthy.
Jan will be in my heart as long as I live, and I will share our love!
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Raindrops on My Head!
Today’s walk was into two unequal timeframes.
The lingering showers of Tropical Storm Nicole had, I thought, played out overnight.
The tropical rain drenched me like a wet mop less than five minutes from home.
My desire to continue on the route undeterred by Mother Nature became impossible.
Jan always worried if I could adjust to circumstances beyond my control.
What if the weather turned on a dime, and you could not return home to me?
Despite my relentless commitment to walking, I have learned to come in from the rain and cold and wait for better walking conditions.
Today Jan would be proud of me as I did a U-turn and waited for the rain to cease.
Her love is always with me and will guide me on my journey into an unknown land.
The Jan Lilien Education Fund sponsors ongoing sustainability and environmental awareness programs. Gifts made this month; I will match dollar-for-dollar. All donations are tax-deductible.
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Forty-nine Years Loving Jan!
Forty-nine years ago today, I met the love of my life.
Three years ago, Jan was in the first months of her struggle with lymphoma.
Even with a life-threatening illness, we were confident we had many more anniversaries to celebrate.
Forty-six years seemed close enough to half a century that we could almost taste the celebratory champagne.
Although I could not wake Jan up with an anniversary kiss this morning, her love is still with me and always will be.
Love never dies because it is the only wealth we have that grows by sharing it.
When I arrived home from my morning walk, I opened Evergreen by Kirsten Robinson and read her poem about love.
It’s not about
fancy shoes
money and fast cars
won’t get you very far
it’s not about
the way you
look like are you
perfect enoughIt’s about more like
the strength in your core
knowing you’re better today
than you were before
it’s not important
to be rich with things
it’s important to be
rich
with love
which is the only wealth
that grows the more you
give it away
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Evergreen
Evergreen by Kirsten Robinson is a tribute to the enduring resilience of human nature as we cycle through times of light and darkness, much like nature itself. In her debut book, Kirsten Robinson (@NakedWriting) lays her heart bare in a raw, relatable, and inspirational way to describe the journey of growth born out of finding beauty in breakage and love after loss.