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Remembering Jan at Camp Widow!

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Remembering Jan at Camp Widow!One of the features of Camp Widow is the memory wall.

Every participant has the opportunity to submit a photo with a message about their loved ones.

I choose the one from the Monarch Housing retirement dinner.

As I always did when Jan was in the room when I spoke, I introduced her.

I would thank her and tell everyone that it was only because of her love and support.

In this photo, Jan is smiling at me as I smile at the love of my life.

That night as I was ending my full-time work career and being honored for a lifetime of work, I made sure that without Jan’s love and support, they would not have any reason to celebrate me.


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Goodreads summarizes its plot.

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