Why Am I Still Defined as a Widow?
I Am More Than What I Lost on My Worst Day
Estimated reading time: 2 minutes, 7 secondsAs I write this post, my youngest grandson Wes is eighteen months old. It has been thirty-two months since my wife Jan passed away. Although I miss her dearly, I choose to celebrate Wes during these milestones because, after a loss, our only choice is to choose life and live in the present moment. The memories that truly matter are the moments of love we share with our loved ones. In times of grief, these memories keep us going and help us find the strength to move forward. As I have described on several occasions, but most recently in my 2023 end-of-the-year message, I have made much progress in the nine hundred seventy-three days since her funeral.
“Don’t spend your final days grieving over me,” my wife frequently told me. And she was right. Despite losing my beloved Jan, I gained so much from our shared love. Among my wife’s last words were, ‘Richard, you are capable, you are strong, and I believe in you.’ These words have become my guiding light, and I want to share them with everyone. No matter what life throws at you, always remember you have the strength and ability to overcome it. Believe in yourself and keep choosing life! Let these words be your inspiration to rise above any challenge that comes your way.
I don’t understand why I am still referred to as a widow. Despite the loss of my spouse, I have chosen to live life to the fullest with meaning and purpose. I have discovered the transformative power of loving and being loved. I play many roles in life, including that of a father, grandfather, community activist, advocate, and observant Jew. I am a complex and multifaceted individual, and I ask the reader to consider me as such. Let’s not be defined by our worst days but rather by the strength and resilience we display in the face of adversity. I am working towards coining a new word to replace ‘widow‘ that better represents my identity. Until then, let’s embrace our complexity and live with purpose.
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I Am More Than What I Lost on My Worst Day
Estimated reading time: 2 minutes, 7 seconds
I thought your quest for a new term was noble. So I shared your post with ChatGPT for some help. Here is what it came up with…
[From ChatGPT] Certainly! Here are some alternative words to replace “widow” that emphasize a positive and forward-moving perspective:
1. **Continuer**: Suggests someone who carries on, embodying the spirit of moving forward in life.
2. **New Chapterist**: Implies someone who is starting a new chapter in their life following a significant change.
3. **Life Adventurer**: Connotes a person who embraces life’s journey with enthusiasm and courage, despite challenges.
4. **Legacy Keeper**: Emphasizes maintaining and cherishing the legacy of the loved one.
5. **Love Forwarder**: Suggests a person who continues to spread the love they shared with their departed spouse.
6. **Journeyer**: Indicates someone on a continuous journey, highlighting progress and personal growth.
7. **Hope Bearer**: Implies a person who carries hope and optimism into their future.
8. **Resilience Beacon**: Suggests a guiding light of resilience and strength in adversity.
9. **Memory Guardian**: Focuses on guarding and honoring the memories of the loved one.
10. **Renewal Seeker**: Conveys a sense of seeking new beginnings and rejuvenation.
Each of these terms brings a unique perspective that aligns with Richard’s message of strength, resilience, and positive progression in life.
Mark, I want to thank you for your comment. ChatGPT has given me a list of words that express my message of strength, resilience, and positive progress in life. I can use these words individually or in combination as needed. I genuinely appreciate your friendship and support, as without it, I may not have reached where I am today.